Comments on: being seen http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/ Life Coach Kate Swoboda Thu, 16 Jun 2011 12:11:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: emma http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-335 emma Sat, 27 Feb 2010 03:57:20 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-335 ooohhhhh, I SO get this! I'm about to launch my first Etsy shop on March 1, and I'm terrified - that no one will go to it, that no one will like what I do, that I have no talent, that I'll have to stop doing it before I even start so I can pay my rent... the list of fears is infinite. But I'm doing it anyway. That's the greatest lesson I've learned by paying attention to Chris, and you, and (thank goodness so many!) a ton of other wise folks (including my own gut when I can get quiet enough to hear it) - just keep moving forward. No mater how small the steps, as long as the direction is forward, we're all just fine. ooohhhhh, I SO get this! I’m about to launch my first Etsy shop on March 1, and I’m terrified – that no one will go to it, that no one will like what I do, that I have no talent, that I’ll have to stop doing it before I even start so I can pay my rent… the list of fears is infinite. But I’m doing it anyway. That’s the greatest lesson I’ve learned by paying attention to Chris, and you, and (thank goodness so many!) a ton of other wise folks (including my own gut when I can get quiet enough to hear it) – just keep moving forward. No mater how small the steps, as long as the direction is forward, we’re all just fine.

]]> By: Ingrid http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-334 Ingrid Thu, 25 Feb 2010 05:51:54 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-334 Thanks Kate for a great post which is making me think about why I really want to start my business. I do fear that my style and taste have to be pushed if I am going to be successful with my interior design business. But that is not how I want to sell. Your quote from Chris sums it all up. I don't need to 'sell' because if I am offering solutions to peoples design/ interiors problems then they will like my ideas and buy them and if not then that's ok too because I don't want them to own things they don't need or like. By the way - who is Chris? ! Thanks Kate for a great post which is making me think about why I really want to start my business.
I do fear that my style and taste have to be pushed if I am going to be successful with my interior design business. But that is not how I want to sell.
Your quote from Chris sums it all up. I don’t need to ‘sell’ because if I am offering solutions to peoples design/ interiors problems then they will like my ideas and buy them and if not then that’s ok too because I don’t want them to own things they don’t need or like.
By the way – who is Chris? !

]]> By: Megan http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-333 Megan Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:50:34 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-333 Hi Kate, I just blogged about fear this week (on my Daring Monday post) and my mantra at the end of last week came out of my devotional book: "There is enough in this world for us all. We can all be big, we can all be beautiful, we can all be strong and talented." And still... I know exactly of what you speak. Reading your post made me think of an irony. In 2007 I got the bright idea of starting a holistic wellness store. I pressured my husband into taking money out of our RRSP, getting a loan and going for it. I told him if we didn't take a risk nothing would ever change. A year and a half later we sold the business because it was making me miserable and I came home and back to my first love: coaching and teaching. But, what your post made me realize is that I can't seem to apply the same reasoning here. I KNOW I need to risk to see change - and yet I prefer to play it small because I'm afraid... ironic isn't it? Thanks for helping me connect those dots! Yours, Megan Hi Kate,

I just blogged about fear this week (on my Daring Monday post) and my mantra at the end of last week came out of my devotional book: “There is enough in this world for us all. We can all be big, we can all be beautiful, we can all be strong and talented.” And still…

I know exactly of what you speak. Reading your post made me think of an irony. In 2007 I got the bright idea of starting a holistic wellness store. I pressured my husband into taking money out of our RRSP, getting a loan and going for it. I told him if we didn’t take a risk nothing would ever change. A year and a half later we sold the business because it was making me miserable and I came home and back to my first love: coaching and teaching.

But, what your post made me realize is that I can’t seem to apply the same reasoning here. I KNOW I need to risk to see change – and yet I prefer to play it small because I’m afraid… ironic isn’t it? Thanks for helping me connect those dots!

Yours,
Megan

]]> By: Diana http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-332 Diana Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:57:48 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-332 For me, the fear of "playing too big" often stops me from being truly seen, from living my 100% around all people. I've got a decades-old story around me being initimating and too much for other people (specifically men) to handle, and if only I could figure out a way to temper it, I'd be someone who another person would desire. ...news flash, self - playing small doesn't serve me, nor does it serve others. If I want to be the change, and model to others what it means to living 100% fully alive, then, by golly, I just gotta do it! :) And I am! Just for today, I am. Thanks, Kate. You're playing BIG inspires me each day to do the same. For me, the fear of “playing too big” often stops me from being truly seen, from living my 100% around all people. I’ve got a decades-old story around me being initimating and too much for other people (specifically men) to handle, and if only I could figure out a way to temper it, I’d be someone who another person would desire.

…news flash, self – playing small doesn’t serve me, nor does it serve others. If I want to be the change, and model to others what it means to living 100% fully alive, then, by golly, I just gotta do it! :) And I am! Just for today, I am.

Thanks, Kate. You’re playing BIG inspires me each day to do the same.

]]> By: admin http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-331 admin Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:43:30 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-331 Sandra, I am SO glad that you are putting your toes in the water! ;-) And Danette, I adore your ring and love watching you grow into more and more being seen with sharing your lovelies with the rest of the world. Sandra, I am SO glad that you are putting your toes in the water! ;-)

And Danette, I adore your ring and love watching you grow into more and more being seen with sharing your lovelies with the rest of the world.

]]> By: olive & hope http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-330 olive & hope Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:04:19 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-330 You know where I stand on this Kate! I even had a hard time with the ick around doing a giveaway of my own product for goodness sake. I really struggle with sales and promotion of myself, my products and my services. As far as the scariest places in my life that I fear to be seen? I would say especially in business, and in the blogosphere. Those are my two biggest. And how do I deal with those days? Up until lately (thanks to the courageous year) I would likely have buried my head in the sand. And now.. I'm still feeling the nerves around being seen, but I'm choosing to make small shifts that allow me to move forward. There has been change brewing in my life for a while, and being unseen has become more painful than being seen for me. You know where I stand on this Kate! I even had a hard time with the ick around doing a giveaway of my own product for goodness sake. I really struggle with sales and promotion of myself, my products and my services. As far as the scariest places in my life that I fear to be seen? I would say especially in business, and in the blogosphere. Those are my two biggest. And how do I deal with those days? Up until lately (thanks to the courageous year) I would likely have buried my head in the sand. And now.. I’m still feeling the nerves around being seen, but I’m choosing to make small shifts that allow me to move forward. There has been change brewing in my life for a while, and being unseen has become more painful than being seen for me.

]]> By: Sandra http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/2010/02/24/being-seen/#comment-329 Sandra Wed, 24 Feb 2010 14:40:53 +0000 http://www.yourcourageouslife.com/blog/?p=355#comment-329 Being seen is a big issue for me, too. It centers around ugliness and beauty for me. I long to be found beautiful, and cringe at the thought of being found ugly. Ugly in my immaturity or physicality, or lack of skill. I haven't found a way to (consistently) hold myself beautiful in my mind even while being ugly in some way. Maybe that's not even possible. It shows up in lots of ways, but I am conscious of it in relation to starting a new blog. I have a name for it (www.write-sandra-write.blogspot.com) but no posts yet. It feels like a kind of jumping off point. I'm standing at the edge of the pool now. Thanks for this post, Kate. Being seen is a big issue for me, too. It centers around ugliness and beauty for me. I long to be found beautiful, and cringe at the thought of being found ugly. Ugly in my immaturity or physicality, or lack of skill. I haven’t found a way to (consistently) hold myself beautiful in my mind even while being ugly in some way. Maybe that’s not even possible. It shows up in lots of ways, but I am conscious of it in relation to starting a new blog. I have a name for it (www.write-sandra-write.blogspot.com) but no posts yet. It feels like a kind of jumping off point. I’m standing at the edge of the pool now. Thanks for this post, Kate.

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