how to stand up for yourself

I used to think that to “stand up for myself,” I had to do something. Say something. Make a declaration. But here’s the thing–my fierce factor is lightning fast. I grew up in an environment where it was imperative to stand up to a bully immediately, showing them you weren’t taking any shit, so that […]

fear that it’s all been done, before

Well, first let’s just get something out of the way: It hasn’t all been done, before, because it hasn’t all been done by you. The fear that it’s all been done before is really just a fear that when you do your unique twist on it, people won’t like it. In other words, it’s a […]

what to do when you feel like you don’t have enough time

Imagine this: a small hole in a wall, perhaps only a half-inch in circumference, and it needs to be patched with spackle. If you try to repair a small hole with a ton of spackle, it’s useless. As soon as you cram some in, the excess slides out. It won’t fit. Widening the hole to […]