your life is worth more than resentment

For a year, I had resented something. I’d get up in the morning. I’d get dressed, get my daughter ready, have breakfast together as a family, kiss my husband on his way out the door, and–there it was, this thing that I needed to do, that I resented. I’d go about my day. Even when […]

the hardest grief you ever walk

The hardest grieving I ever did was the year I was diagnosed with infertility. Even now, having lived it, it seems strange to me to have grieved something that at the time, I had yet to ever taste. If I spend time thinking about that grief, I can feel how the sadness of it weighed […]

show them your cracks

“There is a crack, a crack in everything / That’s how the light gets in.” –Leonard Cohen I routinely show people my cracks. This is courage, in action, especially because it is frequently my experience that others receive these cracks as unnerving. Sometimes the response is advice-giving (“She’s got a crack! Let’s fix it!”). Sometimes […]