What’s your life-changing desire?

The thing I love about Danielle LaPorte, whether it’s a conversation with her, or interviewing her, or her work, is that she’s aligned with a purpose. She’s put thought and integrity behind her work. I’ve seen, time and time again, that she doesn’t simply talk the talk–she walks the walk. She puts intention behind all of it. If she says she’s into truth and liberation, she is into truth and liberation, and she’s actively trying to put that into her life.

So how does she do that?

The first time that anyone suggested to me that how you feel should be the backbone of your life, the idea seemed heretical. We live in a culture that so often tells us that feelings are irrational, and here’s this woman saying that she no longer uses day planners, she now uses her feelings to gauge how she will spend her time.

But once this idea clicks into place–well, then. Holy shit. Anything that isn’t lifting me up, gets either re-framed powerfully, or dropped because it’s not giving me more vitality?

This is a life-changing concept. It was about the time that I started to embrace this that my business ramped up, and this concept has influenced everything from how I eat (“I’m going to feel like shit if I eat this, so I won’t”) to my relationship (“I’m going to feel like shit if I keep arguing this point, so I won’t”) to accountability (“I’m going to feel like shit if I don’t go to yoga like I said I would, so I’m going to go to yoga”).

Then there’s the flip-side–the ushering in of more joy. What do I desire, in this moment? To turn off the computer. To go read the latest issue of Triathlete magazine. To eat out tonight, instead of cooking in. To forgive. To get a new book, even though I know I have too many books, already. To call my friend. To plot out my next travel adventure. To finally get that tattoo. To write until I have nothing more to say (today). To study Italian verb conjugations.

The Desire Map

Danielle sent me a preview/review copy of The Desire Map. People, it’s gorgeous. I’m bananas about it. Once again, Danielle has created something so much more than just a slouchy PDF (Jesus Christ, if one. more. person. creates a rambling 50-page PDF with a few pithy, unoriginal exercises and tries to sell it for $100…).

The Desire Map is comprehensive, detailed, carefully constructed. Thought and time went into the framework, so that you’re guided through something and so that you can actively learn and engage, as opposed to passively sitting back. If completing the exercises in this program doesn’t get you hot n’ bothered about your life, then you’re in need of a serious wake up call. This is inspiration, digitized.

I spent a morning at a coffee shop perusing chapters and–hey, cheating a bit, I know–scribbling responses to questions and completing exercises. With the holidays ahead, I’m looking forward to quiet, luxurious mornings spent in my pajamas, reading or watching videos and scribbling away.

If you want a copy, click the image below to get more information–it’s all linked up for you. Is this an affiliate link? No, actually. I genuinely believe in this work, and I’m not recommending it simply to make a buck or two.


So here’s a thought: What’s your life-changing desire?

Encoded in the things/experiences that we desire are important guide-posts to this crazy thing we’re all trying to experience in this lifetime: happiness. When’s the last time you stopped to really think about your desires, much less the one desire you have that, if fulfilled, would be a true game-changer?

the choices that add up

Today, I went out to cheer on a friend who was running a 50-mile race.

Most people who know me know that I’m bananas about training for endurance events, myself, but what you might not know is that I’m equally as excited about cheering on other people who are training in endurance events.

Also, I cry when I watch documentaries about marathons, ultra-distance road races, or Ironman coverage on YouTube.

Why do I cry?

Because I know that for my friend to run 50 miles today, he needed to make hundreds of choices on hundreds of other days–choices about eating, resting, and training, and choices about his priorities, and choices about not quitting any time when he most wanted to give up.

If you can say that your life is any different today than it was a year ago, it’s because of the choices that you made, one at a time, to do something differently.

That’s incredibly simple, and incredibly profound.

If you have always wanted to be __________ (a runner? a yogini? a writer? fluent in a language? an amazing lover? compassionate? a world traveler? financially free?) then it starts with choices.

One choice, stacked beside another choice, stacked beside another–choices add up.

It can feel powerless or overwhelming to think of a big life change that you want to make, and particularly without a plan for change, you might wonder how you’re going to work with the fear that arises, how to stay motivated, how to reconnect with what inspired you to make a change, and–I love how Brene Brown says it–how to quit with the constant cycles of “how to,” and look (courageously) at what gets in the way.

We don’t need new years, or new seasons, or a Monday to roll around.

We only need this choice, right here and right now. Then, when the next opportunity arises, we need that choice, right there and right then.

Together, they knit the fabric of our lives.

Where will you be in a year? What choices will you have made?Start there.

Love Letter to the World: Leonie Dawson

( This is a guest post from Leonie Dawson ).


Dear You,

Did you know you were born for a reason?

Yes, YOU. Yes, YOU.

You were born to be born, to wake up and to live.

Inside you, there are a hundred million gifts waiting to be shared.

Tell it to us. Tell us your story.

You. Yes, YOU.

I want you to know you are an angel.

Whether you believe it or not.

Whether you see it or not.

I see it and it is so damn bright it’s hard to ignore.

Tell me your story. Share your gifts.

You, my darling. You.

There’s a big bright world waiting for you.

There are thousands craving to hear your words, to know what only you know.

I ask you to step up.

Steep your heart deep in courage.

Live your life with faith.

Know you were born to be you.

Love, you are loved. Darling, dearest you.

I know the road has been rough.

I know it sucked giant borg for parts back there.

Let it not dry you up.

Let it smooth you like a river stone,

sloughing away all the parts that don’t belong to you,

letting you glimmer in the light.

You, dearest you.

You are meant to be here.

Hand on my heart.

You are a teacher of your story, a healer, a muse, a wise woman, a goddess.

The whole world is inside you.

Waiting for you.

Flick the switch and show the world your beauty.

No regrets.

No fears.

No holding back.

You don’t need to anymore.

Be proud + be brave.

You were born to be you.

You, dearest, darlingest you.




Leonie Dawson helps women build incredible businesses + incredible lives. She’s also a mama, artist, hippy, giggle snorter + guide to the thousands of women who gather at www.LeonieDawson.com.