what are you denying?

Here’s what I missed out on when I spent all those years choosing not to forgive and let go, choosing to hold on to resentment. I missed how funny my mother is–hilarious, really. How she can come up with a perfectly timed comment that, reflected on years later,...
you’re nobody’s victim

you’re nobody’s victim

“Don’t be a victim.” You’ve probably heard this, before. Victim stuff–yes, with a capital “V”–is very tricky. It’s tricky because it’s hard to acknowledge. No one wants to admit it when they’re acting like a...
be an adult

be an adult

I’ve spoken about the importance of checking out Stories–and then letting them go. I’ve discussed the worst-case scenarios of someone responding to your check-in with harsh criticism and anger, and how aligning with the choice to have a respectful dialogue can...
check it out, let it go

check it out, let it go

My new mantra around Stories is this: “Check it out, and let it go.” Stories are those beliefs that we assume as fact–that the world is or isn’t this way, or that so-and-so really meant this when she said that…and everything is a Story. If I think...