losing it

losing it

I know a German man who grew up in Germany and lived there until he was eighteen. From the age of eighteen to the present day, in his thirties, he’s lived outside of Germany. You know what he told me, once? That he’s forgotten a decent chunk of spoken German. He never...
the war within

the war within

If there is war within ourselves, there will be war outside ourselves. I don’t necessarily mean literal war, though on an energetic level that is true enough that as a collective whole, war within many will translate to war among many. Moreso, I’m talking about the...

birthing yourself

“We are doing to ourselves within, what we hold people and adults responsible for having done to us.” –Iyanla VanZant Haven’t forgiven your parents, yet? Or an ex-husband? A family member? A former best friend? Then this is probably where you’re at: doing to...
taking radical responsibility for your life

taking radical responsibility for your life

“Nietzsche was the one who did the job for me. At a certain moment in his life, the idea came to him of what he called ‘the love of your fate.’ Whatever your fate is, whatever the hell happens, you say, ‘This is what I need.’ It may look like a wreck, but go at it as...

saving your own life is an inside job

I can feel the moment when a client realizes the horror and the beauty of this truth: saving your own life is an inside job. I can’t do it for them. Nor can any book, or workshop, or downloadable podcast, or therapist, or counselor, or coach, or school, or series of...