seeing the rope

It’s easy to think that there’s some secret to managing fear and that if we just knew what it was, we would use it and then never feel fear again. This is the fallacy that keeps the fear coming. Quit looking at the snake–see the rope.

the confusion that precedes clarity

I’m one of those people who can tell you exactly what happened, play by play, in an intense discussion that I had with someone years before. I can usually tell you what I said, what he said, how he looked when he said it, what I said in response, and what I was feeling when […]