in praise of “Just who do you think you are?”

in praise of “Just who do you think you are?”

“Just who the hell do you think you are?” Someone asks you this, intending to take you down a peg. Or the inner critic, feeling insecure and nervous and afraid, dishes this line up just at the moment when you were starting to relax and have fun. But the thing...
boundaries are about love

boundaries are about love

Boundaries are about love–this is something to take care not to overlook, especially for those people who know that their version of boundaries has been to put up an ice wall tough enough to withstand global warming. The conversation about boundaries often...
boundaries, baby–boundaries

boundaries, baby–boundaries

“Boundaries are like drawing a line in the sand and saying, ‘Beyond here I will not go and you cannot come.’ ” –Iyanla VanZant Here’s a revolutionary thought: other people get to choose the experience they have of you. Not, “Let me try to...

nobody wants to feel like a shit-head

I’m pretty big on taking personal responsibility. Some people in life have trouble apologizing–if I see that I’ve done wrong, I’m happy to apologize. Step right up, Swoboda is here, and she’s ready to make amends. I’ve joked (though I’m somewhat serious) that,...