ending the war: stop hating yourself

ending the war: stop hating yourself

Sometimes I want to beg people, plead with them to stop. To stop hating themselves by beating up on themselves. To stop hating a part of who they are. To stop limiting their capacity for growth. In essence, I want to plead with people to do something...
the manipulation of the work

the manipulation of the work

“Ease is the sign that it’s the right path.” “I just need to speak my truth.” “It must be meant to be.” “I needed to practice self-care.” It’s critically important that as you begin to do personal work, you notice when you might (unintentionally)...
re-claiming “authenticity”

re-claiming “authenticity”

Right around the time everyone started to use the word “authenticity” and “becoming your authentic self” on the internet, the backlash began–people were sick of the word because everyone was using it (understandable) and at least half of...
Think your life needs a makeover? Think again.

Think your life needs a makeover? Think again.

So you think you’ve figured out what would fix everything–if this one thing were different, everything would be better: getting out of the dead marriage; leaving a soul-sucking job; firing that “energy vampire” of a friend and moving on; getting the success...
cutting to the core

cutting to the core

Pretty much for the most part almost everyone is doing it. What’s “it”? Hiding out from core issues. It’s easy to do; once you’ve started to get into a bit of self-help, you make a few changes in your life and those changes feel good. “Great!” you think. “Life feels...