The scarcity of “just being lucky”

The scarcity of “just being lucky”

I’d worked hard for something I wanted. I had sacrificed. Made tough choices. Worked long(er) hours. I’d done all the things that people do when they want some seriously big shit to happen. And–I’d succeeded! I was having a flat-out fantastic day, the kind where...
Three courageous approaches for your Big Dream

Three courageous approaches for your Big Dream

I had finished work on a book proposal. This was a proposal that I had known I wanted to write. And then I put it off. And then I thought, “I should work on that.” And then I put it off. Why? The work wasn’t ready. Also? There was some fear that I wasn’t...
What to do when dreams are slow in coming

What to do when dreams are slow in coming

When dreams are slow in coming, it’s heartbreaking. It’s easy to lose faith. You’ll ask yourself fifteen times whether or not you should give up. You start perusing articles online that tell you when to let go of something, give it up for lost. My favorite scene in...
What you understand when you’re ready to quit judging people.

What you understand when you’re ready to quit judging people.

You can use all of the right words. You can use “I” statements. You can have the gentlest tone of voice. But–if you are judging people–they can feel it. Let’s not kid ourselves. Let’s stop pretending that other people “can’t tell.” Of course they can tell....
The upside of dissatisfaction

The upside of dissatisfaction

I met up with Sharon* after having not hung out for a year. She lived in San Francisco, and I had moved up to wine country, and we were finally making our schedules work despite living miles apart. The cafe was abuzz with clicking laptop keys, babies on laps, and...