you matter

you matter

What you think, matters. What you believe, matters. What you create, matters. What you desire, matters. What you want, matters. It all matters. You matter. So many people think, “It’s all been done before. It doesn’t really matter, anyway. No one will notice.” Here’s...
how to stand up for yourself

how to stand up for yourself

I used to think that to “stand up for myself,” I had to do something. Say something. Make a declaration. But here’s the thing–my fierce factor is lightning fast. I grew up in an environment where it was imperative to stand up to a bully immediately, showing them...
fear that it’s all been done, before

fear that it’s all been done, before

The fear that it’s all been done before is really a fear that other people won’t like it. In other words, it’s a fear of not having other people’s approval. Examine Your Motivations So why do you want to do your thing, anyway? Why do you want to...
how to get off the self-help hamster wheel

how to get off the self-help hamster wheel

In interviews and in the Courageous Living Program, I often refer to the “self-help hamster wheel.” It’s that space where you’re spinning furiously in the world of self-help, reading books and going to workshops and trying to learn about yourself…but going...
what to do when you feel like you don’t have enough time

what to do when you feel like you don’t have enough time

Imagine this: a small hole in a wall, perhaps only a half-inch in circumference, and it needs to be patched with spackle. If you try to repair a small hole with a ton of spackle, it’s useless. As soon as you cram some in, the excess slides out. It won’t fit. Widening...