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choosing drama

choosing drama

It can be good to check in, now and again: when it comes to your self-help, is it possible that profound shifts could come from simple answers, and you’re over-complicating it? In other words, are you choosing drama? All over this website, I talk about things like how...

how to know what you want

how to know what you want

How to know what you want -- this is often the tricky place where we feel most stuck. How can we create what we want, if we don't know what we want? Often, when we tell ourselves that we “don’t know” what we want, we’re lying to ourselves. We do know what we want, but...

habits to reduce anxiety

habits to reduce anxiety

Here’s what I’ve learned after more than a decade of being in therapy or coaching, holding coaching sessions myself for hundreds of different individuals, working with thousands of students in the college system, intimate conversations with friends and family, reading...

creating your courageous year

creating your courageous year

In this episode, I walk you through how you can create your courageous year (a process that can begin any time, not just in January!) and give you essential questions to help you clarify where you're at and put it in the greater context of where you're going. I'll...

how will you let it define you?

how will you let it define you?

Years ago, I worked for a rape crisis organization. When I was in training, the organization was very clear about something: the people, mostly women, who they served were survivors of assault, not victims of assault. “When someone dies, they are the victim of a car...

how to stop compromising yourself

how to stop compromising yourself

When we think that we can only eat the metaphorical "crumbs" of life, we begin to compromise ourselves. We get small, we tell ourselves not to expect too much, and we make ourselves wrong for wanting something in the first place--that's when compromise has taken...