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when it’s ready, it transforms

when it’s ready, it transforms

Sometimes when I meet my own stuck places, I find that the mantra that comforts me the most when I'm still right here in the messy, yet-to-be-transformed place but I wish I was over there in the nice, happy, transformed place, is this: "When something is ready to...

The truth about caring what others think

The truth about caring what others think

Truth? I care about what others think and it's my preference to be liked. I don’t need that approval to validate who I am, nor do I need it 100% of the time, but if I’m honest (and we might as well be) I like to be liked, and guess what? So do you. Why don’t we all...

how to deal with stress

I got a book deal. The day that my editor called and said, “We want to buy your book!” I was feeling like this: And then, quite suddenly, things were moving quickly. - Contract for my attorney to review and for me to sign. - First few chapters due (already? Yes....

what no one talks about, when they talk about how to be courageous

what no one talks about, when they talk about how to be courageous

Sometimes, right before bed and even when I’m tired, I will suddenly find that I can’t sleep. I’ll feel a low-grade anxiety, and it’s difficult to pinpoint what it’s about. So my husband—he’s such a champ—and I will pull on jackets and take a few loops up and down the...

creating healthy habits for kids

I’ll be honest: when it comes to kids and parenting, I keep most of my opinions to myself. I loathe the Mommy Wars, and especially when I was the mother of a newborn, I felt like I was under some kind of intense scrutiny with how I was parenting. My research into...