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how to break bad habits

how to break bad habits

1. Understand that probably, you really don’t want to break your “bad” habits. This is an important thing to know if you think you want to break bad habits : probably, on some level, you really want to stay on the couch (exercise? ugh!) and keep drinking (sobriety?...

healthy lifestyle habits (for the long term)

healthy lifestyle habits (for the long term)

Let’s be real: people don’t want to create short-term habits. People want to create healthy lifestyle habits that truly encompass their entire lifestyle, their way of being and interacting with the world. I don’t want to eat fresh vegetables for a 30-day vegetable...

Be where you are (even if you’re just treading water)

Be where you are (even if you’re just treading water)

What we are used to, when it comes to courage, is pushing: pushing to get to the “next level.” Pushing to create your “big thing.” Pushing to grow, to achieve, to be a better version of yourself than the version that you were, last year. Innovate, innovate,...

overcoming fear of change

overcoming fear of change

Someone asked me once, “How can I start overcoming fear of change in my life? It seems like that’s the hardest part—not the change itself, but the fear of change.” I think she’s right, and overcoming fear of change (the anticipation of, and uncertainty about, what is...

how to change your life

how to change your life

I was thinking about this question of how to change your life when I ran across this quote: “Resistance to change is a natural part of the human condition. We all want progress, but we don’t like change, especially change imposed from the outside. No matter how...

Your healing cannot be dependent on an apology

I used to be someone who thought that I couldn’t move forward, until the other person had apologized. They did me wrong, they failed me, they knew better yet didn’t do better—and, the cherry on top of a big pile o’ shit? They refused to apologize, or they offered a...