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When you’re not sure you can do it

When you’re not sure you can do it

I’m always reminding people: just because I understand how fear works, doesn’t mean that I no longer experience it. Also, trying to never experience fear is a huge waste of time. It’s because of those two truths that I can tell you that I’m training for… a...

Know your why

Know your why

In my 20s I had the habit of “making changes.” I’d decide on some self-improvement kind of a project: organize the closet, eat nothing but macronutrients, yoga and meditation every day, 30 days of XYZ Online Course, hitting up the self-help aisle at the bookstore to...

Pleasure, first

Pleasure, first

I was sitting down to have lunch with Andrea Scher at a cafe in Berkeley, California. “So what’s new with you?” she asked. I leaned forward, a little giddy, feeling like I was about to tell a secret. “Well,” I began, “I’ve been really fucking happy, because I figured...

Growth and healing

Growth and healing

Who are you, today? What has your growth and healing taught you? No one gets through life without experiencing painful things. That’s the no-b.s. truth. But the people who are happiest tend to look at their lives and “re-frame,” or, as I say it, “add the gold.” They...

Why it’s fine that you’re (not) internet famous

Why it’s fine that you’re (not) internet famous

People decide that they’ll start some sort of online business. They pull together a marketing plan. A year later, they’re disappointed. They’ve had a proportionate amount of success to the consistency of their marketing plan--which is to say that the people who...

How to choose joy

How to choose joy

We often wonder how to choose joy , especially when we’re going through difficult times. When I’m having a tough time, choosing joy is hard for me, too--by no means am I suggesting that this is simple or easy to do. Nonetheless, I'm saying...it’s what we’ve got to do....