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When you’re not sure you can do it
I’m always reminding people: just because I understand how fear works, doesn’t mean that I no longer experience it. Also, trying to never experience fear is a huge waste of time. It’s because of those two truths that I can tell you that I’m training for… a...
Know your why
In my 20s I had the habit of “making changes.” I’d decide on some self-improvement kind of a project: organize the closet, eat nothing but macronutrients, yoga and meditation every day, 30 days of XYZ Online Course, hitting up the self-help aisle at the bookstore to...
Pleasure, first
I was sitting down to have lunch with Andrea Scher at a cafe in Berkeley, California. “So what’s new with you?” she asked. I leaned forward, a little giddy, feeling like I was about to tell a secret. “Well,” I began, “I’ve been really fucking happy, because I figured...
Growth and healing
Who are you, today? What has your growth and healing taught you? No one gets through life without experiencing painful things. That’s the no-b.s. truth. But the people who are happiest tend to look at their lives and “re-frame,” or, as I say it, “add the gold.” They...
Why it’s fine that you’re (not) internet famous
People decide that they’ll start some sort of online business. They pull together a marketing plan. A year later, they’re disappointed. They’ve had a proportionate amount of success to the consistency of their marketing plan--which is to say that the people who...
How to choose joy
We often wonder how to choose joy , especially when we’re going through difficult times. When I’m having a tough time, choosing joy is hard for me, too--by no means am I suggesting that this is simple or easy to do. Nonetheless, I'm saying...it’s what we’ve got to do....