how to stop over-thinking things

how to stop over-thinking things

So many women preface their questions, their stories, their ideas with, “I might be over-thinking things, but…” It’s a short little phrase that implicitly says, “Don’t attribute too much power to this idea” or “This idea might be way, way too outlandish so I’m okay if...
changing a negative mindset

changing a negative mindset

I was in a group where someone was having trouble changing a negative mindset, and as a result, she complained. Everything was negative, and according to her there was nothing to be done about it. At first, I felt nothing but overwhelming empathy for what she was...
creating your courageous year

creating your courageous year

In this episode, I walk you through how you can create your courageous year (a process that can begin any time, not just in January!) and give you essential questions to help you clarify where you’re at and put it in the greater context of where you’re...
navigating a life transition

navigating a life transition

Some people’s transitions start with yearning. They yearn for something better, and having established that vision, they step towards it. My own life transitions start with discontent. Life takes on a low-grade buzz that feels difficult to be with, something akin to...
Take what you like, leave the rest

Take what you like, leave the rest

Ages ago, I taught fiction writing classes, both at the university level as well as part of one of those evening “extension” programs where people take informal night classes, for fun. I used to tell my students, “Everyone is an angel, and everyone is an asshole.” I...

how to deal with stress

I got a book deal. The day that my editor called and said, “We want to buy your book!” I was feeling like this: And then, quite suddenly, things were moving quickly. – Contract for my attorney to review and for me to sign. – First few chapters due...