navigating a life transition

navigating a life transition

Some people’s transitions start with yearning. They yearn for something better, and having established that vision, they step towards it. My own life transitions start with discontent. Life takes on a low-grade buzz that feels difficult to be with, something akin to...
Take what you like, leave the rest

Take what you like, leave the rest

Ages ago, I taught fiction writing classes, both at the university level as well as part of one of those evening “extension” programs where people take informal night classes, for fun. I used to tell my students, “Everyone is an angel, and everyone is an asshole.” I...

how to deal with stress

I got a book deal. The day that my editor called and said, “We want to buy your book!” I was feeling like this: And then, quite suddenly, things were moving quickly. – Contract for my attorney to review and for me to sign. – First few chapters due...
know your why

know your why

In my 20s I had the habit of “making changes.” I’d decide on some self-improvement kind of a project: organize the closet, eat nothing but macronutrients, yoga and meditation every day, 30 days of XYZ Online Course, hitting up the self-help aisle at the bookstore to...
fear of change

fear of change

When we have fear of change, we start to break commitments. Watch this video to learn how fear of change might be keeping you stuck and making finishing what you start, more difficult. 1. Understand how to handle the fear of change 2. Learn about the part of you that...
how change happens

how change happens

This is how change happens : I still remember the first time that I consciously chose to shift a pattern. The pattern that (badly) needed shifting was to be controlling, reactionary, judgmental, blaming. The challenge: sometimes, knowing that we want to shift...