changing a negative mindset

changing a negative mindset

Without a doubt, it’s not helpful to try to bypass negative feelings–but it’s also not helpful to write off possibilities when changing a negative mindset. Changing a negative mindset isn’t possible if you aren’t willing to own the fact that you feel stuck. At...
creating your courageous year

creating your courageous year

In this episode, I walk you through how you can create your courageous year (a process that can begin any time, not just in January!) and give you essential questions to help you clarify where you’re at and put it in the greater context of where you’re...
navigating a life transition

navigating a life transition

Some people’s transitions start with yearning. They yearn for something better, and having established that vision, they step towards it. My own life transitions start with discontent. Life takes on a low-grade buzz that feels difficult to be with, something akin to...
Take what you like, leave the rest

Take what you like, leave the rest

Ages ago, I taught fiction writing classes, both at the university level as well as part of one of those evening “extension” programs where people take informal night classes, for fun. I used to tell my students, “Everyone is an angel, and everyone is an asshole.” I...

how to deal with stress

I got a book deal. The day that my editor called and said, “We want to buy your book!” I was feeling like this: And then, quite suddenly, things were moving quickly. – Contract for my attorney to review and for me to sign. – First few chapters due...
know your why

know your why

In my 20s I had the habit of “making changes.” I’d decide on some self-improvement kind of a project: organize the closet, eat nothing but macronutrients, yoga and meditation every day, 30 days of XYZ Online Course, hitting up the self-help aisle at the bookstore to...