resistance needs your resilience

resistance needs your resilience

I have been saying, “The resistance needs your resilience.” We cannot draw water from an empty well. We cannot give what we do not have. This means that it’s imperative for all of us to do our own personal work to vent the excess stress and fear that...
The Courage To Be a Silence Breaker

The Courage To Be a Silence Breaker

I was happy to see TIME Magazine’s 2017 “Person of the Year” cover, honoring the incredible women who spoke out against not just their individual experiences of being violated or harassed, but about the larger systems that create an environment where harassment can...
when you don’t know what to do

when you don’t know what to do

The good news: people are waking up, looking beyond their own bubbles, and seeing the world’s problems. The bad news: people don’t know what to do . It’s hard to admit that we don’t know what to do , to solve the world’s problems—not in any absolute sense. And...
Raise the bar for what you will allow

Raise the bar for what you will allow

This is the problem that I see myself, and most women I know, struggle with: tolerating what is in fact unworkable and ultimately, intolerable. The job with the boss who asks that we come in late even after we’ve already said that coming in late has compromised our...
how to take the first step

how to take the first step

I was talking with a friend who was trying to decide how to handle a situation with a passive-aggressive family member. She wanted to take that first step of saying, very simply, “We need to change this conflict between us,” but she (understandably) feared...