why your life matters

why your life matters

Our lives matter far more than we can possibly realize, far more than we can possibly give them credit for. We can never know when, just by being ourselves, we will be someone else’s gift. We do ourselves a gross disservice when we assume that because of our...
How long will it take to feel better?

How long will it take to feel better?

Especially if you’ve been efforting awhile, you’ll wonder: how long is it going to take, to feel better? The answer? It takes as long as it takes. There’s no timeline, no cartography of the soul for how to feel better, faster. When fear sings that (old) tune, it’s...
choosing drama

choosing drama

It can be good to check in, now and again: when it comes to your self-help, is it possible that profound shifts could come from simple answers, and you’re over-complicating it? In other words, are you choosing drama? All over this website, I talk about things like how...
how will you let it define you?

how will you let it define you?

Years ago, I worked for a rape crisis organization. When I was in training, the organization was very clear about something: the people, mostly women, who they served were survivors of assault, not victims of assault. “When someone dies, they are the victim of a car...
if I told the truth

if I told the truth

I started the Your Courageous Life podcast because I wanted a more intimate forum for talking about courage. I started that podcast with an episode where I got into more truth-telling, and today I’m revisiting that topic with episode 13: If I told the truth. I...
caring what other people think

caring what other people think

Caring what other people think There’s a story behind this podcast episode: a story that intertwines what we learned about friendships during our formative years, with caring what other people think. The two are connected, and in this podcast episode I share how...