When people talk about how to create better habits , I think they’re really meaning: how can I stop doing the stuff that doesn’t really make my life better, and start doing the things that DO make my life better? And how can I make that regular and consistent?

To create better habits , you’ve got to know what it is that you deeply desire. When I talk with people about how to let their most courageous selves emerge, we’re having a conversation about how to let the things that they want most for their lives, become priorities.

When you let the things that you want, the things that your most courageous self would be excited about, be your guideposts for change, the process of creating better habits is more fun. Habit-formation that’s based in fear, or in trying to change something about your life because you’re afraid that if you don’t change it disaster will ensue is a lot less fun (and less effective).

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From there, you create better habits by picking just a few things—no overloading yourself—to focus on.

Want to get along better with your spouse? What are the habits that go into that? Has it become a habit to snap at each other? Then decide on a different response.

Want to be more effective at building your business? What are the habits that go into that? Maybe you need to stop checking email, first thing in the morning, or get into a habit of regularly pitching yourself out to publications on certain days of the week. (One thing that I suggest for users of the Coaching Blueprint digital marketing program is that they make checking in with the program a daily habit).

Want to be more courageous? To develop more courageous habits, start looking at what area of your life you’d like to be more courageous in—perhaps in your relationships speaking your mind, or with creative expression as you write the book you’ve always wanted to write—and from there, make a point of examining the habits that surround courageous choices.

Whether you want to change something tangible or something personal to your way of being, thinking about how to create better habits starts with thinking about what you desire and then looking at the habits that surround that desire.