It's 11:47 PM and you're replaying a text message for the fourth time, drafting responses you'll never send, rehearsing a conversation that hasn't happened yet. Then comes the second thought: what's wrong with me that I can't stop? Why am I overthinking this?

Nothing's wrong with you. In this episode, we're unpacking your question--why do I overthink everything--and how the real lens here is how your brain is trying to protect you. "Overthinking" is actually deep, valuable processing that's been mislabeled as a flaw, and we'll identify the specific point where thinking stops being preparation and starts becoming a loop that freezes you instead of moving you forward.

This one draws on research into the psychology of worry and rumination to make the case that your overactive mind isn't a personality defect — it's an old strategy that's overdue for an update. 

Negative thinking and self-doubt are at their worst when life hands you back-to-back difficult circumstances. So what do you do to manage the negative thinking and self-doubt at a time when things are genuinely difficult? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode--but from a place of genuine coping, not putting a bow on everything to make it look prettier than it actually is.

Let's talk about the balance between not censoring the truth, and recognizing that sometimes negative thinking and self-doubt can obscure what's really going on, looking for patterns that bring self-awareness without the self-blame, and leaning into the things that really help you survive during challenging times.

In life, we're going to have setbacks--job losses, health issues, death, breakups--things that "take us out of the game" of our usual flow of life and sometimes even have us feeling lost, grieving, derailed. So how do you pick yourself up again after a setback?

If you're navigating this and definitely do NOT want any of the, "Just give it time" advice, this podcast episode is going in a different direction, talking about what it's like to be in the messy space of trying to literally pick yourself back up, again. We'll get into not just the actions to take but importantly, the ways to allow yourself a full process, with no rush or pressure to hurry up and "get back to normal" at a time when your "new normal" is being defined.

Today's episode lands from a personal space--my father recently passed. The entire process of being with him in the hospital in his final days and then letting him go has been some parts profound but with the shock of grief it's often been brutal.

So what do you turn to, to navigate grief and loss? I'm sharing how I'm taking tiny baby steps that respect my capacity from one day to the next (spoiler alert: I fail and flail, often feel "irrational") while continuing to press forward.

If you've lost a job, a pet, a friend, a beloved family member--you know that grief is no ordinary experience and it differs from person to person. In this episode I hope that you find solace in knowing that you aren't alone.