How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
The Reason You Keep Comparing Yourself to Others
It's 9:40 PM and you're four scrolls deep into someone else's highlight reel — the promotion, the marathon, the kitchen you've quietly wanted for years — and that familiar drop hits: I should be further along than this.
In this episode, we're breaking down how to stop comparing yourself to others, starting with something that might surprise you: comparison isn't a character flaw. It's one of the oldest, most well-documented things the human mind does.
We look at the research behind why humans are wired to measure ourselves against the people around us, why the direction of a comparison matters more than the fact that you're making one, and why this feels so much more relentless now than it did a generation ago — your very old wiring is being run against a very new, curated environment.
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
When something has been a habit for awhile—like comparing yourself to others—you probably start to run that habit on automatic pilot without realizing that you’re doing it. To change that habit, you’ll have to work it like a skill. In this episode I’ll walk you through a reframe that changes the whole relationship: what if the sting of comparison isn't telling you that you're behind, but telling you what you actually want?
You'll leave with two concrete questions to ask the next time that familiar drop shows up, and learn how to catch the story before you agree to live inside it.