Who do you think you are? Often this question is lobbed at us as an accusation, or our internalized critic throws it our way as we’re expressing an opinion or creating something. In actuality, “Who do you think you are?” can be a powerful question for us to turn around and ask ourselves.

Boundaries are about love. We often get hung up in the extremes of trying to be too boundaried, or letting go of boundaries, altogether. When we remember that boundaries are about love, then we can find the middle ground.

When people are unkind to us, we can get reactive and pissed—or, we can choose a different experience. To choose your experience in the face of how others behave is tough to do, but it brings more peace. Here’s how.

Have you ever apologized to someone in a conflict, and then waited for them to apologize for their part, too—and their apology never arrived? That’s offering an apology with attachments, and it’s a recipe for disaster in any conflict.