You need courage to risk annihilation, to strip away the armor, to be with the crap that arises. So you say you want your life to change? Excellent. The opportunities really are all around you--and not a single external thing needs to happen in order to for you revolutionize your life.

Regardless of where you are, today, think of the last time you felt particularly lost and broken. Consider: she won the battle, last time. She climbed through. She survived. She figured out what land looked on the other side of a seemingly endless ocean of hurt or pain.

Looking at where you inadvertently get stuck in transference becomes the doorway to seeing where you might practice the spaciousness of “I don’t know.” There’s a lot of fear, when we don’t know. That’s why we try so hard to find answers. But there’s also freedom in that spaciousness of “I don’t know.”

What we call our spiritual practice is less important than that we examine ourselves. At the end of the day, we are just breathing. All we need to do is breathe.