It’s not selfish to work on you. It’s really the only work that you can do. Other people can be the vehicles for our growth, but they can only take us so far. At some point, we will all face the reality of our own personal “inside job.”

Finding the work you love is scary. Doing what you love can be a hard journey if we're not careful.

No one is perfect. Everyone wiggles out somewhere. I still find those places in myself. The difference is in the commitment to noticing where you're wiggling out and to stop letting yourself off the hook -- with gentleness.

In my own desire to become more independent and truly live a courageous life, I've got to be honest: it was a difficult day, the day that I realized that--holy shit--there was no coach, no workshop, no therapist, no book that I could buy that would make me feel whole. That job, that work, that journey... was mine alone. (And thank goodness for that!) Here's more on how to become more independent.