Having no other tool at my disposal in that moment, I tried it. I said “Thank you.” When you say “Thank you” in the midst of something like that, you’re speaking from a place of trust. This is deeply courageous trust.

What are you denying? When we over-focus on the things that are wrong or bad, we end up not putting our attention on the good. That becomes a form of denying the good.

It's hard to stop feeling shackled by the past, but if you ask yourself these two questions, you can realize you're nobody's victim.

This is the part where we get to let everyone do something really radical: be an adult. It’s not your responsibility to change them or get them to tell the truth. Repeat after me: Not. Your. Responsibility. Be an adult. (And let them choose whether or not to act like an adult, too).