I’ve been with my man for a loooong time—well over a decade. What I would have told you about love and relationships before I met him, is very very different than what I would tell you about relationships, today (so, free relationship advice, ahead!).

When we make mistakes, we might rush to beat ourselves up. But—don’t forget to ask whether the stories are even true. Perhaps our shame and fear convinces us that we are solely to blame, when in fact, we are simply human.

When you’re dealing with parasitic energy, you’ve got to learn how to recognize that it’s at work and how it’s impacting you. Here are 5 choices for dealing with parasitic energy.

We’ve all been there, before: in a place of negative mental rumination where we’re tossed around by our thoughts. When we start watching the watcher, we engage with a presence-based practice where we step outside of our frantic thinking and into feeling more grounded in ourselves. Here’s how.