Brene Brown's latest book, Daring Greatly, is an honest look at the default responses that we have to shame, how we bury looking at those responses, and how we can stop. Read more about why daring greatly matters.

Despite the best of intentions, sometimes the reason that we lash out or go to our defenses is because love doesn’t actually feel like the safe option! We can intellectually know that we want to be more patient and loving, and then not choose it because we feel such discomfort. Here’s what to do when love isn’t safe.

When we’re going through something heavy and difficult and people say the “wrong” things, we have a choice. We can make them wrong for saying the wrong things and cast ourselves as isolated and alone—or, we can love. It’s possible to love yourself right through your own personal tragedy. The frame you choose for the situation will determine a lot about what comes next.

We’ve got this one, precious, life—and what our lives become will ultimately be tied to how we fill our days. So I see time management as courageous time management, and these are my strategies.