As I’m geeking out on habit-formation, I’m seeing how one of the hardest parts of making a new habit become part of your life, is this: how to make new habits stick. One thing I try to remember as I create new habits, myself, is that one point, everything that we do was not a habit.

"Why am I so unhappy?" you ask yourself. I'll tell you my theory, in all its frank glory: You're discontented because you're actually really great, but you're terrified of your greatness.

Brene Brown's latest book, Daring Greatly, is an honest look at the default responses that we have to shame, how we bury looking at those responses, and how we can stop. Read more about why daring greatly matters.

Despite the best of intentions, sometimes the reason that we lash out or go to our defenses is because love doesn’t actually feel like the safe option! We can intellectually know that we want to be more patient and loving, and then not choose it because we feel such discomfort. Here’s what to do when love isn’t safe.