Here’s what I see: Somehow, in the day-to-day grind of work and bills and to-do lists, so many incredibly smart women–women with big vision, a ton of heart n’ hustle, and deep desires–feel like there’s no room in their lives to actually create what they want.
When they contemplate making bold moves so that they can feel happier and more fulfilled, they often feel one of two things: either they’re wild with creative energy but feel stuck in all the reasons why it can’t happen (lack of money, lack of time, lack of support, lack of confidence…), or they realize that they’re just too damned tired to add One More Thing–even if it is their own deepest desires for happiness–onto their plates.
This, as you can imagine, is a problem. It’s a unique kind of guilty suffering to know that you have so much to be grateful for and so much potential, yet feel like it’s just outside your grasp.
So why does this happen? How did we get so busy?
I have a tiny-big theory that we get so busy
a.) because we live in a culture that glorifies it, and “busy” just creeps up on us, and
b.) we’re actually afraid to put our deepest ambitions, first (it’s intimidating as hell!), and
c.) we’ve got old stuff, old habits and ways of being, that have lead us not to trust ourselves.
That last one is the big one. We don’t trust in ourselves, in what we want, in our inherent enoughness and goodness, or in our capabilities. So, we turn to what we think “works:” doing, doing, doing. You’ve got to work hard, if you want results…right? And meanwhile, that ethos of hustle-hustle-hustle puts us farther and farther away from looking at who we really are, what our priorities truly are, and how to trust ourselves.
So why don’t we trust ourselves?
It’s different for everyone. Sometimes, we don’t trust ourselves because we’ve never truly known ourselves, never really taken the time to understand who we are and what we want. Other times, life has shifted away from some essential foundation and we haven’t yet taken time to process the transition and understand what’s changed. Other times, it’s because we haven’t–deep, deep down really-really and truly-truly–healed the old voices of parents or authority figures who first conditioned us to doubt our capabilities.
All of these lead up to some form of fear (or whatever word you want to use in its place: self-doubt, lack of confidence, anxiety, shame, etc.).
In more than ten years of doing this work, I’ve seen that absolutely everyone’s got something they fear, some place of limitation that they push up against. You don’t need to kick fear’s ass or get rid of fear or become “fearless.”
In fact, you can’t get rid of fear. There is no “fearless.” Anyone who says differently, is selling a lie.
Everyone has their doubts or fears, but not everyone is controlled by that doubt or fear.
That’s where our work comes in.
What I want: For incredibly smart women (like you) to learn to truly trust yourselves, and let all of your life’s decisions come from that place.
True self-trust looks like practicing courage.
The courage to understand your fear and where it came from.
The courage to drop the hustle, and feel okay even amid life’s many challenges and ambiguities.
The courage to create what you need and live with joy, even alongside adulthood’s very real obligations.
True self-trust is where the courage to be part of social change and make an impact with your life or your work begins, knowing that while no one can do everything to solve the world’s problems, everyone can do something.
True self-trust is born through making courage something you practice so often, that it becomes a habit, something I call The Courage Habit.
Make no mistake: changing old habits and creating courageous habits can be soul work.
When people live in alignment with courage, they radically change the world–first, their own internal worlds, and then the worlds of the people they are in contact with, spreading from there. The revolution starts from within, and the ripple effect outward sparks change for others. They do this in their families, communities, companies. When they face their internal doubt and hesitation, energy gets freed up, and it’s no longer exhausting to put their own priorities front-and-center.
World-changers know that when fear and doubt hold them back, no one wins. Doing personal work to figure out what the self-imposed limitations are, and free them up, matters. The world needs what you have to offer.
I help people move from fear, to courage. From doubt and hesitation, to self-efficacy and trust.
I am a voice for women in particular to emerge as leaders–to feel they have sovereignty over their lives, to feel empowered by their choices rather than constrained by them.
Who I Often Work With
I work with women who have a shit-ton of smarts and an abundance of ambition. They already know how to work hard–even when it comes to self-help–and it’s working hard that’s become exhausting. They don’t want coaching that’s about checking off a to-do list. They’re sick of telling themselves to “be realistic” about what’s possible.
They come to coaching because they know that there must be some blind-spot, something that’s getting missed. They want a space that they can count on for new ideas, straightforward feedback, and cultivating leadership over their own lives.
What do my clients really, truly want? They want to be free to do whatever the hell they want to, with their own lives. This doesn’t mean selfishness or trampling on other people–it means creating a life where who you are on the inside, is how you actually live, on the outside.
Living this way is possible. It’s very pragmatic and takes into account all the factors: biochemistry, your personal psychology, our social world and humanity.
It’s got little to do with pithy affirmations or glitter. When you release old, fear-based ways of being and start creating more courageous habits, you end up creating more happiness, more time, more spaciousness, more ease, more confidence. You’re more effective and efficient, and your joy factor is upped by, say, a trillion.
My name is Kate Swoboda, aka “Kate Courageous.” I’ve been a life coach for the past decade, working with hundreds of women across thousands of coaching hours and endless megabytes of data traveling amongst cell phone towers and internet connections.
I approach our work from a holistic place. There are no scripts. One week of coaching will look different from the next. We make room for both the shake-ups and the space to breathe. Some sessions involve a lot of questions, and others involve a lot of body-oriented work, and others involve pragmatic and actionable strategizing.
I’ve walked through this fire of self-examination and transforming. I know what it’s like to look at all the parts of my life that aren’t working, and to want to run. I used to run. What changed my life was having people in my corner who pointed out that I could run if I wanted to, but I’d end up right where I started–and I’d be more exhausted from all of that avoidance.
When you create your courageous life, you move from doubt, to confidence. You let go of “I can’t,” and you get to experience who you actually are: amazing.
When I first begun working with Kate I felt “stuck”, tired, and at least a bit angry. With humor, kindness, great “tools”, and lots of hard-won wisdom, Kate has guided and supported me in making changes in attitude and behavior that have lead me to a new enthusiasm for life, a renewed sense of direction, and greater self-respect. I feel enormously indebted to Kate. She has taught me things I wish my mother had (and that I can now pass on to my children). Not the least is how critical self-care is to a balanced life. I had heard this everywhere, forever – but Kate helped me to make it real in so many creative, do-able ways. In doing so, I not only feel better about life and about myself, I have also become a much better spouse, mother, and friend. Honestly, I feel I could have made my way through life to date with less emotional trauma and greater confidence had a learned the lessons Kate has taught me at an earlier age!”
How I Work
** I’ll be working with clients on Tuesdays and Wednesday afternoons in February, March, and April of 2018.**
Intro Session: $250. 90 minutes. You fill out an in-depth pre-session questionnaire that’s going to tell me a lot about you and, hopefully, spark you to think deeply about the truth–what’s truly not working? What do you truly desire?
I review everything prior to our session, and then we come together at the appointed time to dive right in with the work. Leave this session starting to challenge old habits and limiting beliefs (“I wish I could, but…”), and with a clear picture of your next steps.
An intro session is always how I start working with new clients.
Click below to register for a session, and a link to the pre-session questions will be auto-delivered to you. I’ll reach out to you via email to offer a personal hello and to start the scheduling process.
Ongoing Sessions: $350 monthly. Three-month commitment.
After having an Intro Session, if you decide you want to continue, we can work together in an ongoing capacity. This includes:
- Establishing your unique focused and measurable objectives for our work.
- Two 60-minute sessions, each month.
- Optional recordings of sessions for your review.
- Customized practices, to be completed between sessions.
- Two monthly voice check-ins, between sessions.
- The Courageous Living Program.
A note: for ongoing coaching, the work is intense. It’s intense because we’re creating a lot of movement in all the areas of your life that have felt stuck, and it’s intense because courage is a muscle that takes time to develop. Fear comes up, first. You’ll second-guess yourself, wonder if you made the right decision in exploring all of your “stuff,” and ultimately, if you stay with the process instead of running away in fear, you’ll get to the other side of something and realize that you can’t go back to doing things the way that you used to–and thank goodness for that.
A portion of coaching income is donated every month to Charity: Water.
About the Money
I take a pragmatic stand around money, and it’s this–don’t sign up for coaching when you can’t afford it. Some may say that it’s crazy for me to say that, but I care more about being real than I do about getting your cash.
My fees make people a little bit uncomfortable, and that’s a good thing–you’re not going to waste time, with this kind of money on the line.
But there are other options for doing powerful work, if what I charge for coaching isn’t a match at this time. Check out my Courageous Living Program as a less expensive way to get started on doing this work, and come back for sessions only when you know that it honors your house of money as much as it honors your truth.
This has been very transformative for me and you were such a big part of it. I feel like a completely different person from my first session with you in the Spring. Thank you so much for helping me find my inner courage. You helped me find what I was struggling to find in myself. When I look back at this time in my life I will always think of you!
When a client starts ongoing coaching, we set up metrics. This is a common business and leadership practice, and one that is helpful for both the client and the coach. I want you to finish our time together knowing that you moved from here, to there, and to have clear indications of that, along the way.
In life, in business, and in leadership, I see my clients powerfully step into being more effective, more efficient, more productive, happier, more joyful, more pro-active, more innovative, more inspired. These are legitimate metrics that also translate into some pretty tangible results: people make more money, take fewer sick days, and contribute more to the people around them.
“Back when we were coaching regularly, one of my goals was to get out of debt. Well, as of today (!), I am officially debt-free except for my student loan payments. Oh yeah! That’s right! It is so fun to look back on my notes from our coaching time together. Dream school, check! Italy, check! Debt-free, check! So I’m writing to tell you that I soooooo deeply appreciate the work you put into our coaching sessions. The benefits continue to pour in, and I still find myself using the tools you taught me. Thank YOU for helping people like me live our best lives (and for living yours so beautifully).”
Knowing If You’re Ready
When you’re tired of pretending not to want what you truly want…
When you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed…
When you’re tired of feeling tired…
When you’re ready to wake up feeling GOOD about life…
When you’re ready to feel excited about the people in your life…
When you’re ready to be courageous in every area of your life…
That’s when you’re ready. I look forward to the journey, together.
Monthly coaching isn’t right, at this time? Some people need to work with these tools at their own pace, on their own schedule. They need something in-depth, with a personal touch, yet affordable–and that’s where the Courageous Living Program comes in. Get a complete, downloadable program in courageous living, and you’ll emerge practicing 100% fully-alive courage.
To learn more, Click Here.
“I felt empowered after our sessions. I was definitely more connected to myself and loved how you gave me tools to work through what we encountered in our sessions.” –H.T.
“She gave me the tools and helped me find the courage to use my intuition and the wisdom I never knew I had to find my personal power. I now feel free to accept what “is” and enjoy this beautiful life I created. She is empowering and inspiring with the way she reaches you.” — J.H.
“When I first begun working with Kate I felt “stuck”, tired, and at least a bit angry. Kate has guided and supported me in making changes in attitude and behavior that have lead me to a new enthusiasm for life, a renewed sense of direction, and greater self-respect. I feel enormously indebted to Kate. She has taught me things I wish my mother had (and that I can now pass on to my children).” –F.S.
“The coaching sessions with Kate were also so, so helpful. They softened my approach and left me considering things from a far more positive and proactive direction than the more cynical place I started out at. ” –E.S.
“Back when we were coaching regularly, one of my goals was to get out of debt. Well, as of today (!), I am officially debt-free except for my student loan payments. Oh yeah! That’s right! It is so fun to look back on my notes from our coaching time together. Dream school, check! Italy, check! Debt-free, check! So I’m writing to tell you that I soooooo deeply appreciate the work you put into our coaching sessions. The benefits continue to pour in, and I still find myself using the tools you taught me. Thank YOU for helping people like me live our best lives (and for living yours so beautifully).” — L.B.
“I always feel supported and that means a lot when I am working through challenging areas of my life. I find myself energised for the rest of the day and it is always a day where I make great strides forward. I am careful to make sure that day is free so I can work on my goals, not wanting to lose the good energy I gain from one hour with you. It has always been a positive experience.” –I.D.
“…the key thing she helped me realise is – it’s all within me already – I just needed a gentle nudge and an open ear to believe it.” — F. C.
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