Here’s what I see
Somehow, in the day-to-day grind of work and bills and to-do lists, so many incredibly smart women–women with big vision, a ton of heart n’ hustle, and deep desires–feel like there’s no room in their lives to actually create what they want.
It’s not that they don’t ever try. When they contemplate making bold moves so that they can feel happier and more fulfilled, they often feel one of two things: either they’re wild with creative energy but feel stuck in all the reasons why it can’t happen (no money, no time, no support, no confidence…), or they realize that they’re just too damned tired to add One More Thing–even if it is their own deepest desires for happiness–onto their plates.
This page? This page will give you a sense of who I work with and what we do, so that you can see if it sounds like your kind of exploration.
So why does this happen? How did we get so busy?
I have a tiny-big theory that we get so busy…
a.) because we live in a culture that glorifies being busy, and presents a million distractions, so “busy” just creeps up on us, and
b.) because we’re actually afraid to put our deepest ambitions, first (it’s intimidating as hell!), so we allow the distractions and get confused about the difference between a distraction and a priority and
c.) because we’ve got old stuff, old habits and ways of being, that have lead us not to trust ourselves.
That last one is the big one. When we don’t trust in ourselves, in what we want, in our inherent enoughness and goodness, or in our capabilities we turn to what we think “works:” doing, doing, doing. And meanwhile, that hustle-hustle-hustle puts us farther and farther away from looking at who we really are, what our priorities truly are, and how to trust ourselves.
When we don’t trust ourselves, we start walking scared. We can look fine on the outside (or not) but inside, we’re in the constant tension of trying to keep it all together. That tension might look like feeling over-tired, ruminating on choices without being able to make a decision, feeling meh and unexcited about life, hating your job, mom-guilt on overdrive, wondering if the issue is really your marriage or the house you live in or your friends or-or-or…there’s a lot of spinning and overwhelm.
Make no mistake: changing old habits and creating courageous habits can be soul work.
I approach coaching with a mix of the strategic and the soulful.
“What the hell does that mean?” some wonder, so I’ll tell you: it means that I think a fair amount of behavior that we want to change in our lives is habitual and we need to get real and take action and practice integrity and accountability–and…
…we get nowhere if we neglect our vulnerability and our softness and our desire for connection and the places in life that flat-out hurt. To do that would be to deny our humanity.
I am interested in helping you reconnect to your true self-trust.
True self-trust looks like practicing courage.
The courage to understand your fear and where it came from.
The courage to drop the hustle, and feel okay even amid life’s many challenges and ambiguities.
The courage to create what you need and live with joy, even alongside adulthood’s very real obligations.
True self-trust is where the courage to be part of social change and make an impact with your life or your work begins, knowing that while no one can do everything to solve the world’s problems, everyone can do something.
True self-trust is born through making courage something you practice so often, that it becomes a habit, something I call The Courage Habit.
When people live in alignment with courage, they radically change the world–first, their own internal worlds, and then the worlds of the people they are in contact with, spreading from there. When you really face your internal doubt and hesitation, energy gets freed up. I believe that when fear and doubt hold you back, no one wins (least of all a world that needs us all to wake up and start taking action in our communities to enact social change).
I am a voice for women in particular to emerge as leaders–to feel they have sovereignty over their lives, to feel empowered by their choices rather than constrained by them.
What do my clients really, truly want? They want to be free to do whatever the hell they want to, with their own lives. This doesn’t mean selfishness or trampling on other people–it means creating a life where who you are on the inside, is how you actually live, on the outside.
My name is Kate Swoboda. I’m the author of The Courage Habit. I’ve been a life coach for more than ten years, working with hundreds of women across thousands of coaching hours and endless megabytes of data traveling amongst cell phone towers and internet connections.
I approach our work from a holistic place. There are no scripts. The work is deeply personal and one week of coaching will look different from the next, for each client. We make room for both the shake-ups and the space to breathe. Some sessions involve a lot of questions, and others involve a lot of body-oriented work, and others involve pragmatic and actionable strategizing.
I’ve walked through this fire of self-examination and transforming. And because I, just like you, am not a finished product, I will return to that fire again and again. I’m into being holistically, courageously, human. I have no 1-2-3 step plans to sell you. I spent two years in coach training, took graduate-level courses in counseling and psychology, and love this work.
I think that when you practice courage, you get to experience who you actually are: amazing.
When I first begun working with Kate I felt “stuck”, tired, and at least a bit angry. With humor, kindness, great “tools”, and lots of hard-won wisdom, Kate has guided and supported me in making changes in attitude and behavior that have lead me to a new enthusiasm for life, a renewed sense of direction, and greater self-respect. I feel enormously indebted to Kate. She has taught me things I wish my mother had (and that I can now pass on to my children). Not the least is how critical self-care is to a balanced life. I had heard this everywhere, forever – but Kate helped me to make it real in so many creative, do-able ways. In doing so, I not only feel better about life and about myself, I have also become a much better spouse, mother, and friend. Honestly, I feel I could have made my way through life to date with less emotional trauma and greater confidence had a learned the lessons Kate has taught me at an earlier age!”
How I Work
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Intro Session: $250. 90 minutes. An one-time, introductory session is always how I start working with clients. You fill out an in-depth pre-session questionnaire that’s going to tell me a lot about you and also get you thinking deeply about the truth–What’s truly not working? What do you truly desire?
I review everything prior to our session, and then we come together at the appointed time to dive right in with the work. Leave this session starting to challenge old habits and limiting beliefs (“I wish I could, but…”), and with a clear picture of your next steps.
Click below to register for an intro session, and a link to the pre-session questions will be auto-delivered to you. I’ll reach out to you via email to offer a personal hello and to start the scheduling process.
Ongoing Sessions: $350 monthly. Three-month commitment.
After having an Intro Session, if you decide you want to continue, we can work together in an ongoing capacity. This includes:
- Establishing your unique focused and measurable objectives for our work.
- Two 60-minute sessions, each month.
- Optional recordings of sessions for your review.
- Practices that are customized to you and your life, to be completed between sessions. New practices are offered at each session.
- Check-ins, between sessions on Voxer or via email.
- The Courageous Living Program.
A portion of coaching income is donated every month to Charity: Water.
This has been very transformative for me and you were such a big part of it. I feel like a completely different person from my first session with you in the Spring. Thank you so much for helping me find my inner courage. You helped me find what I was struggling to find in myself. When I look back at this time in my life I will always think of you!
“Back when we were coaching regularly, one of my goals was to get out of debt. Well, as of today (!), I am officially debt-free except for my student loan payments. Oh yeah! That’s right! It is so fun to look back on my notes from our coaching time together. Dream school, check! Italy, check! Debt-free, check! So I’m writing to tell you that I soooooo deeply appreciate the work you put into our coaching sessions. The benefits continue to pour in, and I still find myself using the tools you taught me. Thank YOU for helping people like me live our best lives (and for living yours so beautifully).”
“I felt empowered after our sessions. I was definitely more connected to myself and loved how you gave me tools to work through what we encountered in our sessions.” –H.T.
“She gave me the tools and helped me find the courage to use my intuition and the wisdom I never knew I had to find my personal power. I now feel free to accept what “is” and enjoy this beautiful life I created. She is empowering and inspiring with the way she reaches you.” — J.H.
“When I first begun working with Kate I felt “stuck”, tired, and at least a bit angry. Kate has guided and supported me in making changes in attitude and behavior that have lead me to a new enthusiasm for life, a renewed sense of direction, and greater self-respect. I feel enormously indebted to Kate. She has taught me things I wish my mother had (and that I can now pass on to my children).” –F.S.
“The coaching sessions with Kate were also so, so helpful. They softened my approach and left me considering things from a far more positive and proactive direction than the more cynical place I started out at. ” –E.S.
“Back when we were coaching regularly, one of my goals was to get out of debt. Well, as of today (!), I am officially debt-free except for my student loan payments. Oh yeah! That’s right! It is so fun to look back on my notes from our coaching time together. Dream school, check! Italy, check! Debt-free, check! So I’m writing to tell you that I soooooo deeply appreciate the work you put into our coaching sessions. The benefits continue to pour in, and I still find myself using the tools you taught me. Thank YOU for helping people like me live our best lives (and for living yours so beautifully).” — L.B.
“I always feel supported and that means a lot when I am working through challenging areas of my life. I find myself energised for the rest of the day and it is always a day where I make great strides forward. I am careful to make sure that day is free so I can work on my goals, not wanting to lose the good energy I gain from one hour with you. It has always been a positive experience.” –I.D.
“…the key thing she helped me realise is – it’s all within me already – I just needed a gentle nudge and an open ear to believe it.” — F. C.
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There are other options for doing powerful work, if what I charge for coaching isn’t a match at this time. Check out my Courageous Living Program as a less expensive way to get started on doing this work, and come back for sessions only when you know that it honors your house of money as much as it honors your desire for change.