How to be softer

In a different episode of the Your Courageous Life podcast, I talked about "how to be tougher." In that episode, I shared that being "tougher" isn't about harshness. In this episode, I'm talking about how to be softer, and especially this--being softer doesn't mean being weaker.

We all build emotional armor—sarcasm, control, perfectionism, shutting down. In this episode we're honoring the truth: that armor once protected you.

But now, it might be keeping you from the connection and healing you crave.

Let's redefine softness not as weakness, but as strength in vulnerability, tenderness, and emotional presence.

And, understand this--being soft doesn’t mean being a doormat. It means being rooted enough to stay open. It’s a paradox: the thing that feels unsafe (letting your guard down) is exactly what creates real safety in the long run. This is where courage begins to feel like home, when we can embrace how to be softer from a genuine place.