Having a hard day? Consider this your reminder: you are indestructible. At your core, at your essence, there is something within you that none of life’s challenges can ever break. You are more than you can imagine. Your life matters.

I’ve been with my man for a loooong time—well over a decade. What I would have told you about love and relationships before I met him, is very very different than what I would tell you about relationships, today (so, free relationship advice, ahead!).

When we make mistakes, we might rush to beat ourselves up. But—don’t forget to ask whether the stories are even true. Perhaps our shame and fear convinces us that we are solely to blame, when in fact, we are simply human.

When you’re dealing with parasitic energy, you’ve got to learn how to recognize that it’s at work and how it’s impacting you. Here are 5 choices for dealing with parasitic energy.