Having boundaries is about saying, “I will take responsibility for choosing the experience I have of you, and let you go ahead and choose the experience you have of me.” It's boundaries, baby--boundaries. Guess who's in charge of those? Guess who gets freed up when she lets go? You got it--you.

Have you ever apologized to someone in a conflict, and then waited for them to apologize for their part, too—and their apology never arrived? That’s offering an apology with attachments, and it’s a recipe for disaster in any conflict.

Releasing expectations is really about presence. It’s about releasing the grip, opening to whatever arises, and noticing the tendency to judge and categorize.

Having a hard day? Consider this your reminder: you are indestructible. At your core, at your essence, there is something within you that none of life’s challenges can ever break. You are more than you can imagine. Your life matters.